Last Updated on 2020/12/06
China is the world’s most populous nation, home to 1.4 billion.
People who are ethnically Chinese living in other countries number a further 50 million. Statistically, a fair number of these individuals will not only be single, but they’ll also be dating people out with their own background.
If you happen to find yourself tempted to asking out a Chinese person, there are certain aspects of Chinese dating culture you will need to be aware of. Here are five of the most important.
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They take relationships seriously
In western society, there can be a certain frivolity when it comes to getting together with a potential partner.
It’s certainly the case a significant percentage of daters have no intention of taking a liaison any further than the first night together.
But in Chinese culture, pressure is exerted on individuals to settle down.
In fact, there is a stigma attached to people in their 30s who remain single.
Because of this, it is not uncommon for individuals to arrange to be escorted by fake partners, rather than suffering the ignominy of being seen as single.
So if you do happen to see someone you are attracted to but who appears to be spoken for, remember this other person might well be a decoy.
Sexual equality is still a novel concept
When couples in the west go dating, it is routine for restaurant bills to be split, or for both parties to be involved in deciding where to go.
If you begin to date a Chinese lady, the chances are she will wait for you to make the important choices.
While this might seem quite unusual, for any Chinese woman it’s simple etiquette to sit back and allow their partner to take the lead.
They certainly don’t see this situation as anything to worry about; if anything they’re relieved they don’t have to worry about making unpopular choices
Courtesy is everything
In western countries, banter and joking are an integral part of any relationship.
We also love to poke fun at celebrities or politicians.
But in China, the emphasis is very much on being respectful at all times.
With this in mind, if you are aiming to impress a potential Chinese partner, you need to be prepared to be polite, and never crack jokes at their expense.
Another key aspect of dating culture is, it is common to lavish praise on a female’s appearance.
So forget about exercising restraint, Chinese women relish being in the company of a suitor who gives lots of compliments.
Don’t expect a real connection immediately
If your only dating experience has been liaisons with western females, you might be used to in-depth conversations about all manner of subjects.
But with a Chinese woman, there is every chance she has been brought up in a more traditional and Conservative background.
In her society, females are expected to remain as introverts, especially when it comes to dating.
If you are with a Chinese female and she doesn’t join in the conversation, this isn’t a sign she is unhappy with you.
It is merely the fact she is exercising a polite restraint, and will not initiate any conversation herself.
Again, it’s all about expecting the gentleman to be the one taking control.
From the heart
Finally, you need to be aware Chinese girls will take everything you say literally.
You might be used to saying ‘love you’ as a casual aside as much as a statement, but if you say it to a Chinese female she will assume you really mean it and will take it to heart.